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Points To Assist a Declining Relationship

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The Hadith questions the manhood of a person who beats his wife up during the day and derives pleasure from her during the night.

Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work.

Following these basic principles should help any marriage to improve.

The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence:

💟Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated.
 
Amidst busy schedules and tasks on the parts of both women and men, Muslim husbands and wives tend to forget the real reasons behind marriage and likewise the rights of each other.

Subsequently, they deprive themselves, their mates and their children of the happiness and tranquility that is the bedrock of a successful family. This unbalanced vision towards a couple’s ideal relationship is bad enough to plunge the family into a situation laden with troubles and worries.
 
💟Negative Relationship between Husband & Wife

💟Some Muslim spouses relate to each other like adversaries rather than life time partners.

💟The husband assumes the position of dictator, and whatever he says is not law.

The wife on the other hand feels that she must squeeze everything she can out of her husband.

💟 Some wives do not express their gratitude to their husbands irrespective of how much the man may do for her.
Instead they adopt an attitude of ‘never enough’ and make the husband feel like a failure if he does not provide every want and desire their extravagant lifestyles dictate.

💟Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and even physically abuse them.
Their wives have no voice or opinion in family matters.

Moreover certain husbands become so cold and miserly that even the basic expenditure for the house is difficult to come by.
 
⚛Nikkah – A divine institution

The Nikkah bond has been divinely established for the welfare and upkeep of a healthy and progressive community.

This divine prescription has been unjustly utilised as a vehicle to perpetrate oppression, deception, humiliation, and abuse.

Allah Ta’ala describes marriage very differently in the Noble Quran:

‘And from his signs are, He created for you wives from among yourselves, so that you may live in tranquillity with them, and instilled love and mercy between your (hearts) . . . “(30:21)
 
⚛Head of the Home

The position Islam has accorded to the man as the head of the home is a responsibility which will be accounted for, rather than a privilege which should be abused.

We are taught to treat our wives well.  Muhammad Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) has reported to have said:

‘The person possessing the most perfect faith is one who has excellent behaviour, and the best among you are those who are best towards their wives” (Mishkat)
 
⚛Be Partners in Decision Making

Follow the principle of ‘Shura,”
(consultation) and make decisions as a family.

Implementing this Sunnah within the home increases harmony and love between family members.

It will also assist in enhancing trust and loyalty between spouses and the children.
 
⚛Abuse

Abstain totally from every form of emotional, mental, or physical abuse to your spouse.
 
Watch Your Words
Be very careful what you say when you are upset.

The wounds afflicted to the heart of a person by words will never heal and remain a lifelong memory.

Sometimes you will say things that you would never say when you were not angry.

Apply the directives found in the Hadith for suppression of anger.
 
⚛Work Together in the House

Muhammad Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) consistently assisted his wives with household chores.

When Muhammad Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) did not consider the housework trivial, how can we today obligate our wives to all the house work and much more?
 
🗣Communication is Important

Talk to each other, communicate, have a dialogue, but do it respectfully.

Husbands and wives need to talk to each other.
It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until they explode.
 
⚛Live Simply

Do not envy or cast your gaze towards those spouses who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family.

Be pleased with what you have.
The grass will always look greener on the other side.

The wealthiest person is the one who has attained contentment of heart. 💓

To develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more.

Repeatedly thank Allah Ta’ala for the many blessings in your life.
 
⚛Admit Your Mistakes

When you make a mistake, admit it.

When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily.

If possible, never sleep angry with each other.
 Forget Past Problems
Everything that has happened is history.

Repent for the past and live for the future.

Do not focus discussion on the past unless it is something that will make both of you laugh.

 
🤲The Duaa (Prayer) for a blissful marriage:

(O Allah! grant us such wives and offspring who will be a source of coolness for our eyes, and make us leaders of the Allah-Fearing)
 
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"People with leaking roof always advice people with faulty door to pack out of their home"

Run away from friends who tell you to leave your home because you had misunderstanding with your husband.

Run away from friends who tell you their husband never raised their voices at them let alone hitting them, especially when you went to them for advice.

Run away from friends who tell you how lavishly their husband spend money on them!

Run away from friends who ask you why you of all people ended up marrying your husband.

Run away from friends who tell you your husband doesn't fit you!

Run away from friends who tell you they wish they were married to certain man and not their husband.

Run away from friends who tell you how romantic and caring someone else's husband is.

Run away from friends who tell you the money your husband drops for cooking and upkeep is not good enough.

Run away from friends who tell you how their husband serve them breakfast in bed!
The question is ...

Have you seen their husband spending lavishly on them?

Have you seen their husband serving them breakfast in bed?

Do you know if their husbands drop feeding money for them?

I wish you had a camera fixed in your home so you could have a playback and see how lustfully she looked at your husband.

Your marriage is your pride.
Protect it!
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IMPORTANCE OF A HUSBAND FROM ISLAMIC POINT OF VIEW

(NB: This is not religious post. We post it to deduct the happy relationships. Thanks for your understandings) - Admin

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The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ asked one of the Companion's wives: "Have you got a husband?" She said: "Yes." He asked: "How do you treat him?" She replied: "I spare no pains in obeying him, except what I cannot do." The Prophet then said: "Make sure that you obey him, because he is your Paradise or Hellfire" (Tirmidhi)
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The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: "If a woman dies while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter Paradise." (Tirmidhi)
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The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month (Ramadan), guards her chastity, and obeys her husband (always) she will enter Jannah." (Bukhari)
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The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ was asked: "Which of women is best?" He said: “The one who makes (her husband) happy when he looks at her, obeys him when he tells her to do something, and does not disobey him with regard to herself or her wealth in a way that he dislikes.” (Nasaai)
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The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: "If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anything other than Allah, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands.
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By the One in Whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, no woman will fulfil her duty towards her Lord unless she fulfils her duty towards her husband, and if he asks her for herself when she is sitting on a saddle, she should not refuse him." (Ibn Maajah
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*The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: "It is not right for any human being to prostrate to another; if it were right for one human being to prostrate to another, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands because of the great rights that they have over them. By the One in Whose hand is my soul, if a man were covered from head to foot with weeping sores oozing pus, and his wife were to come to him and lick his sores (to clean them), this would not fulfil the rights he has over her." (Ahmad)*
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The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: "If Allah has blessed any of you with a good wife, He has helped him with half his deen, so he should fear Allah with the other half." (Hakim)
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The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: “No woman annoys her husband but his wife among Al-Hoor Al-’Ayn says, ‘Do not annoy him! May Allah destroy you (Literally ‘Kill you’)! For he is just a temporary guest with you and soon he will leave you and join (come tous‘.” (Ahmed, Tirmidhi, ibn Majah)
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The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: “There are three whose prayers will not be accepted and they will not ascend to heaven or even go beyond their heads: … a woman whose husband calls her at night and she refuses.” (Targhib wal-Tarhib)
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The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: “If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and he stays angry with her all night, the angels will curse her until morning.” (Bukhari, Muslim)
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The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: “Any woman who asked for a divorce for no reason, the fragrance of Paradise is forbidden to her.” (Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood, Ibn Maajah)
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"Whether the husband wants to discipline his wife, or forgive her, or take another wife, or divorce her, this is all up to him to choose. Let the woman beware of incurring her husband’s wrath because this will lead to Allaah’s being angry with her." - Sh. Muhammad Al-Munajjid
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"If a Man is married with a righteous wife, he will live a harmonious life even if he is poor" - Sh. Saleh Al-Fawzan
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The blessings for a woman being a righteous wife and a man having the righteous wife is pleasure in this world and the next when we meet Allah...
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When Imam ibn Hanbal's wife passed away he said "Wallahi I lived with her for 40 years and we didn't argue once." He was asked how? He said "Whenever she got upset and tried to argue, I stayed quiet. And whenever I was upset and tried to argue she stays quiet"

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WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE

1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.

2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.

3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.

4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.

5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.

6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in  her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.

9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.

10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all
along.

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11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.

12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.

13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.

14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any
woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.

16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.

17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.

18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.

19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.

20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.

21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.

22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having
children to take care of you too.

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INFERTILITY IN MEN AND WOMEN

By Dr Rowland Abímbólá
Originator Herbs 4 Healthy Living

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Infertility happens when a couple cannot conceive after having regular unprotected sex.
It may be that one partner cannot contribute to conception, or that a woman is unable to carry a pregnancy to full term. It is often defined as not conceiving after 12 months of regular sexual intercourse without the use of birth control.

Worldwide, 8 to 12 percent of couples experience fertility problems. Between 45 and 50 percent of cases are thought to stem from factors that affect the man.

Treatment is often available.

CAUSES IN MEN
The following are common causes of infertility in men.

Semen and sperm
Semen is the milky fluid that a man's penis releases during orgasm. Semen consists of fluid and sperm. The fluid comes from the prostate gland, the seminal vesicle, and other sex glands.

The sperm is produced in the testicles.

When a man ejaculates and releases semen through the penis, the seminal fluid, or semen, helps transport the sperm toward the egg.

The following problems are possible:

Low sperm count: The man ejaculates a low number of sperm. A sperm count of under 15 million is considered low. Around one third of couples have difficulty conceiving due to a low sperm count.
Low sperm mobility (motility): The sperm cannot "swim" as well as they should to reach the egg.
Abnormal sperm: The sperm may have an unusual shape, making it harder to move and fertilize an egg.
If the sperm do not have the right shape, or they cannot travel rapidly and accurately towards the egg, conception may be difficult. Up to 2 percent of men are thought to have suboptimal sperm.

Abnormal semen may not be able to carry the sperm effectively.

This can result from:
A medical condition: This could be a testicular infection, cancer, or surgery.
Overheated testicles: Causes include an undescended testicle, a varicocele, or varicose vein in the scrotum, the use of saunas or hot tubs, wearing tight clothes, and working in hot environments.

Ejaculation disorders: If the ejaculatory ducts are blocked, semen may be ejaculated into the bladder
Hormonal imbalance: Hypogonadism, for example, can lead to a testosterone deficiency.

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OTHER CAUSES MAY INCLUDE
Genetic factors: A man should have an X and Y chromosome. If he has two X chromosomes and one Y chromosome, as in Klinefelter's syndrome, the testicles will develop abnormally and there will be low testosterone and a low sperm count or no sperm.

Mumps: If this occurs after puberty, inflammation of the testicles may affect sperm production.

Hypospadias: The urethral opening is under the penis, instead of its tip. This abnormality is usually surgically corrected in infancy. If the correction is not done, it may be harder for the sperm to get to the female's cervix. Hypospadias affects about 1 in every 500 newborn boys.

Cystic fibrosis: This is a chronic disease that results in the creation of a sticky mucus. This mucus mainly affects the lungs, but males may also have a missing or obstructed vas deferens. The vas deferens carries sperm from the epididymis to the ejaculatory duct and the urethra.

Radiation therapy: This can impair sperm production. The severity usually depends on how near to the testicles the radiation was aimed.

Some diseases: Conditions that are sometimes linked to lower fertility in males are anemia, Cushing's syndrome, diabetes, and thyroid disease.

Chemotherapy: Some types may significantly reduce sperm count.

Illegal drugs: Consumption of marijuana and cocaine can lower the sperm count.
Age: Male fertility starts to fall after 40 years.

Exposure to chemicals: Pesticides, for example, may increase the risk.
Excess alcohol consumption: This may lower male fertility. Moderate alcohol consumption has not been shown to lower fertility in most men, but it may affect those who already have a low sperm count.

Overweight or obesity: This may reduce the chance of conceiving.

Mental stress: Stress can be a factor, especially if it leads to reduced sexual activity.

CAUSES IN WOMEN
Infertility in women can also have a range of causes.

RISK FACTORS
Risk factors that increase the risk include:
AGE: The ability to conceive starts to fall around the age of 32 years.

SMOKING: Smoking significantly increases the risk of infertility in both men and women, and it may undermine the effects of fertility treatment. Smoking during pregnancy increases the chance of pregnancy loss. Passive smoking has also been linked to lower fertility.

ALCOHOL: Any amount of alcohol consumption can affect the chances of conceiving.

Being obese or overweight: This can increase the risk of infertility in women as well as men.

EATING DISORDERS: If an eating disorder leads to serious weight loss, fertility problems may arise.
THIS IS A COMPREHENSIVE TOPIC.

CONCLUSION:
It is advisable to treat Infertility cases with Orthodox medications and herbal preparation.

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Secrets of your Spouse

1. To Marry : Women looks Future of Men, but Men looks Past of Women.
2. Love : Women Likes Quality of Love, but Men likes Quantity of Love.
3. Search : Mostly Women Search for Character of Men. So its easier for her to forgive him but difficult to forget him, Whereas Mostly Men Likes Beauty of Women so if he find better one he can forget her but if she makes any mistake to him its difficult to forgive her.

Here are some tips to maintain a healthy relation with your spouse
Ways To Keep Your Wife's Love
1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce.
2. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere.
3. Be a good listener.
4. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, names she loves to hear.
5. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, God is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family.
6. Sit down and eat meals together.
7. Keep disputes between the two of you, don’t take it outside.
8. Don’t leave home in anger.
9.Don't ever compare your wife with others people's wives (it's kill them).
10.Women like attention and they like to be told clearly that they are loved. Don't be stingy in expressing your love for your wife.

Ways to Keep Your Husband's Love
1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female--a man doesn’t want a man for his wife.
2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.
3. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.
4. Don’t keep asking him, “what are you thinking?”
5. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.
6. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.
7. If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.
8. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
9. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.
10. Don't ever compare your husbands to other husbands! For example don't say, "well her husband doesn't do that, why do you" (thats a killer!)
11. Wake him up for prayer (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.

May God Almighty preserve all of our marriages and help us understand and implement them in and with the best of manners.

Amen

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MARRY YOUR MATE

6 MATES YOU MUST CHOOSE TO MARRY FROM
One of the ways your marriage will not add to the rate of divorce in our world today is for you to marry your mate and if you are married already, make your spouse your mate!
You see that statement of ' Am I your mate?' does not apply in marriage. You must marry your mate. I will like to talk on six dimensions you and the person you want to marry or you have married must be mate.
1. MARRY YOUR SPEAKING MATE Marry someone you can speak together and understand each other. Communication is very crucial in marriage. Don't marry someone that, when you are saying 'A' he or she will be saying ' Z' Once there is dichotomy in your speaking and understanding level, you can't enjoy that marriage. So many men go to bar to hang out with friends and gist till 11pm because they know their wives can't engage in any meaningful intellectual discussion. So many women too prefer to hang out with their friends, because they know their husbands mentality when it comes to vital issues and discussions is very low. Marry your speaking Mate.
2. MARRY YOUR SCHOOL MATE
By this I mean, marry someone you can learn together and improve together. Don't marry ' Mr Know all' or 'Miss Know all'. Don't marry someone who is rigid and not open to new ideas, new ways of doing things, or new innovations. Marriage is a great institution. From day one till death do you part, you will keep learning. Marry your 'school' mate; someone who is ready to learn with you.
3. MARRY YOUR SPIRITUAL MATE Marriage is not just a social union. It is also a spiritual union. Marry someone who knows the same God you know. Don't marry someone who's believe of God is different from yours. Two can't work together except they be agreed. The spiritual controls the physical, even in marriage. Check for spiritual compatibility in that person you want to marry.
4. MARRY YOUR SPENDING MATE
Don't marry someone who is stingy. There are so many expenses to cater for in marriage. A stingy guy in courtship won't suddenly become a generous husband in marriage. Don't marry a lady that has the financial philosophy of ' My husband's money is our money, but my money is my money'. Marry someone who believes in dignity of labour , who is ready to work, not a lazy fellow who just want to be a consumer and not a contributor. Marry someone who is ready to spend and be spent for the growth and success of the family.
5. MARRY YOUR SEX MATE
Marry someone you have sexual feelings for. Sexual feeling is not a sin. It is an instinct God put in every person. Sex plays a major role in the success of any marriage. Any man you don't have emotional feelings for, don't marry the person. If you don't have emotional feelings for that lady, leave her alone. A spiritual being is also a sexual being. No matter how spiritual you both may be in your marriage, you won't be praying for 24 hours in a day. You won't be reading the Holy Book or worshipping God 24/7. You will have sex! You will romance! You will flirt with each other! You will make babies. So, marry someone you can connect with sexually. It will help you to enjoy your marriage so much!
6. MARRY YOUR SOCIAL MATE
Don't marry someone you won't be proud to go out with. Don't marry someone you will be feeling shy to introduce to people with boldness. Marry someone you are comfortable to hang out with. Marry someone you are socially compatible with. Don't marry an anti- social person.
You might be wondering if you can find all the 'mates' in one person. Yes! The answer is YES! You don't need to marry 6 guys/ladies to have all these mates. One person can be all that for you. If you also work on yourself and build your life, you can be all that for the guy/lady that will marry you.
The promise of God for you is this : 'Seek and read from the Holy book. Not one of these shall be missing; none shall be without her mate.Say it loud and clear ' I shall not lack a mate!'
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DON'T DIE IN ACTIVE SERVICE TRYING TO PLEASE HER SEXUALLY

Few weeks ago, I was called to see a patient , without delay I rushed down the stairs and headed to the hospital wards. The man was sitting in the back seat of the car that brought him, I watched closely and there was no respiratory efforts. I went for the pulse, not palpable , no cardiac activity, pupils were dialated ,fixed and unreactive to light. I watched foam rush through the mouth and nostrils. Obviously he is dead. Still panting from the unplanned exercise I did, I felt bad I couldn't do anything for him. Out of curiosity, I wanted to know how he got to that point. The wife, a young lady in her late 30s told me they were playing when suddenly he became distressed, struggling for air and she tried to calm him all to no avail then she raised alarm for help. I quickly asked if her husband was hypertensive and she admitted . I requested for his drugs, luckily they came with his drugs. I went through the drugs, I was able to identify some and they includes = digoxin, Viagra, lisinopril. I concluded the young man was in his late 40s "DIED IN ACTIVE SERVICE TO THE WIFE" from heart attack. My assumption might be right or wrong, but seeing those 2drugs , I won't be blamed for arriving at this conclusion. . Rest in peace to the dead.
Have you imagined why men die more, have you ever noticed that there are more widows than widowers. Just check in your little village, then extend it to your community you will be surprised at what you find.
I just want to pick one of the reasons I feel contributes to this. I will appeal that this is solely my opinion, it may be wrong or right.
SATISFYING A WOMAN
Every responsible man wants to satisfy his family and wife in terms of providing for their basic needs and also in bed. But doing this at the expense of the man's life is what I want to condemn. It is a common experience this days that women openly talk about how bad their spouses are in bed, and most times the woman makes life difficult for the man by throwing abusive words at him. It is also common to see a lot of products being advertised and marketed for enhancement of males sexual performance. A lot of women are responsible for their husband's death because of their excessive demands for sexual satisfaction. And in the bid to satisfy the woman the man take drugs that endanger his health. And I ask "is sexual satisfaction the bases of marriage?" Some times the woman even ask for a bigger penis and my fellow man will be taking all sorts of drugs just to enlarge his penis. This is just mocking God who created you. At the end he dies SATISFYING A WOMAN. Why not ask the woman to reduce her vagina to size you instead.
A man's sexual performance depend on a lot of factors, such as stress,diet, medical conditions such as diabetes, drugs such as antihypertensive, relationship problems ,etc. How do you expect a man who you nag ,starve, embarrass on the streets, who you refuse to support financially, who sleeps for less than 3 hours in a day to satisfy you sexually?
Most times women threaten to go outside for the so called satisfaction and you will be struggling to take higher doses of the drugs to satisfy her. That woman you want to satisfy at the expense of your own life started having sex before the age of 12years until age of 25yrs or more when she got married. Before this time she has experimented widely with men of different energy capacity. Unfortunately she's married to a man with lower sex capacity and she's already addicted to sex from an early age. How can an average man cope?
Don't die in active service, don't die trying to satisfy a woman sexually. Just do what you can do and leave the rest to God. If you die trying to satisfy a woman definitely after your burial men will come and continue from where you stopped.
Our dear wives and girlfriends, we are begging you to help us live longer. Help us financially, encourage us to do more and definitely not nagging. Feed us well,give us peace of mind, allow us sleep at night, understand our health challenges, understand the side effects of drugs we are on, protect our weaknesses, and pray for us. Then we will live longer for you and your children. Our performances then will improve.
Do not harm yourself in any way trying to prove you are a man. 7-13 mins is OK, if you can go higher better and do not take drugs that will damage your heart. Many have died trying to satisfy women. THEY DIED IN ACTIVE SERVICE.
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