JUST ONE LIE

Copied

Carol was on the bed with her husband on that fateful Saturday morning, when her phone rang,  it was her twin sister calling.  Simultaneously,  the door bell rang, David Her husband went for the door,  while she received her call.

"Carol, please do me a favor,  my husband will call you soon,  tell him we were out all day yesterday.. Together...Tell him, we went shopping, and got back late around 11:45pm" Christy rushed her words
"But that is a lie, and I don't tell lies!. "Carol answered
"Please, Carol,  just this one lie,  save my life, and I promise after this I will stop my promiscuity She pleaded as she dropped the call...

Meanwhile,  downstairs, David was been interrogated by some police officers, who found his ID card at a crime scene yesternite.
David told them he had nothing to do with the crime as he was at home, last night from around 6pm with his wife. He told them to let him call his wife, as she was a witness. He shouted Carol's name and told her to come downstairs.

Carol was on her way down, when Christy's husband called..
"Hello Emma..,  Good morning,  happy weekend... Fine... What?  Your wife?.. Yes we were together yesterday till late at night... I even got home around 11:45pm ..ok.. No problem"
At this point,  David rose up in shock and fear,  as the officials were looking at him like they have nailed him...
"Carollll.... What sort of lie did you just tell, we were both at home.. "
The officers cut in:
"Mr David, don't put words in her mouth, you have been telling us lies, we have your wife's voice on record,  definitely you were at the crime scene and you killed Miss Kike after you raped her" He brought out the handcuff

"What"? Carol shouted
Before Carol could fully grasp what happened and explained what truly happened, her husband was behind bars.. Carol asked Christy to speak up, which she did, but the case was against them, because of just ONE LIE, that had been recorded.

David was sentenced to Life imprisonment and he spent 30 years before the real culprit was found, it was his cousin who had stolen his wallet.  The victim had struggled with the rapist, it was then the wallet fell. The cousin picked it up, but the ID card had fallen.
JUST ONE LIE  tampered with a man's destiny,  "be careful of every word that proceeds out of your mouth".

"BE careful of that ONE LIE. it goes beyond you. It can affect Generation to generations.

©2018

Follow our Facebook for more

Hypocrisy in Monogamy: Marriage and Marrying More Wives

Shared by Blessing Gyaga Gabriel

Marriage and Marrying More Wives

MARIAGE FALLACY
--- by Tola Ade

If we Christians keep insisting on this fallacy called One-man/One-wife, too many ladies will end up sleeping with different married men secretly while trying to make money and waiting for their own husband. Too many ladies will remain in their parents house till their 30s and some will live alone till their 40s. Most women who lose their husbands in their 40s and 50s will never find another man to marry them legitimately, they will end up sleeping around with different men.
GET IT RIGHT: Men and women are not equal and God never made us to be equal. Lets stop adopting all these American law that force Christian men to marry only one wife, while leaving several Christian ladies without husband, leading to many of them doing "bad things" in secret.
Sincerely, I was at a Church Service recently for Widows and a Pastor who wanted to give food items to the over 100 widows said: "Any woman in this service who can boldly say she has not opened her legs for any man since her husband died should come out to the front". Sadly, the number of women, in their 40s and 50s, who came out were less than 20.
That is the reality that we Christians are hiding from. Full details below...
Read this very interesting piece by Tola Adeniyi: THE AGONY OF MONOGAMY
It was at the church service for the 90th birthday of the legendary matriarch of the Awo dynasty Chief Dr Hannah Dideolu Awolowo in Ikenne that the thoughts that prompted this article began. Some well known highly placed gentlemen and their wives were called upon to partake in the wine sipping, bread breaking ritual called Holy Communion. As soon as these respectable ladies and gentlemen, all of them past age 70, and amongst whom were renowned professors, high court judges, legal luminaries and business moguls, finished their spiritual blessing and were returning to their seats, they caught a pitiable sight in their over-flowing garb of hypocrisy.
They wore forlorn mien plastered with furrowed frowned faces like some one afflicted with putrid smell of heavy dose of fart. They looked as if they were mourning a three-year-old boy mistakenly killed by his own father, or the passing of a poor woman who has just succumbed to excruciatingly painful cancer.
They clung to their wives as if they were newly wedded. I temporarily forgot that I was in a holy church, the spiritual enclave of Christians. I almost laughed my head off because I knew each of the ‘holy’ ‘monogamous’ men intimately and by Jove, I knew of their second, third or fourth wives/liaisons/mistresses with whom they had sired several children. To the whole world they were champions of monogamy, but to their hearts and conscience they were celebrated polygamists, or at best, serial monogamists. Pshaw!
I saw pain written all over them, the agony of living a lie, the unease of hypocrisy, and the shame of going through life pretending to be what you are not.
This is the sort of agony a lot of the so-called monogamists go through all their lives. The series of lies they sell to their wives, and the double life they present to their pastors and church leaders, most of whom are actually equally guilty of hypocrisy and double life living.
This piece is not set out to condemn or criticise monogamy. Monogamy is perfect for those who believe in its concept and can genuinely keep to it. I too have been married to one lovely woman for almost 45 years and it has been like a marriage made in heaven. I happen also to be the promoter along with some friends the 35-year-old Family Club of Nigeria which is dedicated to the upliftment and celebration of marriage and family values.
The article is designed to expose the hypocrisy and pain associated with embracing false notions which are really not observed by any culture in the world, and to advise those who erroneously sentence themselves to a life of sadness and emptiness because they were deceived to believe that there is some utopia somewhere called monogamy.
I am very much aware that this article will generate a lot of controversy most especially from those who live holier-than-thou life and have continued to deceive the world that they are upholders of a doctrine that is not supported by true and enlightened interpretation of any religious doctrine.
The White Men, I am yet to see any human being whose skin colour is white like that of chalk, came and told the unfortunate lands they invaded that the cherished cultures, traditions and religions of such lands were rubbish, and instead indoctrinated them with values which they themselves never believed in or truly practiced. We know of King Henry Vlll, and several major historical figures in ‘Christian’ Europe who had more than one wife in addition of a string of wives who their ‘laws’ forbade them to address as wives but who nonetheless perform all the functions of wife minus name.
God bless President Mitterrand who openly confessed to having two women in his life, with the one in the other house with whom he fathered an 18-year-old daughter at the time he passed on.
I have schooled, worked and lived virtually in all the continents of the world and I make bold to say with all emphasis at my disposal that no culture on planet earth truly practices monogamy. My Greek, Italian, Russian, British, American and other Caucasians routinely visit their other wives [called by other names] with whom they have children. But back in the homes shared with the one carrying the ring, they are monogamists!
If God had wanted humanity to be monogamous, He or She would not have made the pigeon the only monogamous creature.
The cultures that practice polygamy had always known that at any given time, the number of available marriageable women far out number available men plus the fact that an 80-year-old man, if he has money, is still very much in the market whereas a 60-year-old woman may not be that lucky. The biological limitation to a woman’s productive age is also a factor. Why should a woman therefore remain on the shelf till age 45 when she could jolly well get married as second wife to a man who can afford to share life’s responsibilities with her? Why should a woman leave a man with whom she is No 1, simply because took a second wife and end up being numberless in the hands of several men with whom she naturally shares bed just because of some doctrine she hardly understands?
All the women who should go and marry but are saying they do not want to share their man with another woman in a polygamous setting, are sharing current boyfriends with several other women. Where is the logic?
The argument that children in a polygamous house are always at each other’s throat does not hold water. Many siblings of monogamous families are known to have had worse and irresolvable, irreconcilable squabble, with dirty bitterness over inheritance than children from different mothers.
The agony suffered by both men and women in the hand of unnatural laws and doctrines is too stifling for comfort. In 2002, 502 Reverend mothers were reported to have died while procuring abortion in Rome. Nigerian Tribune wrote an editorial on the unfortunate incident. And stories of Reverend fathers having children and sodomising young men in their care are legion! Why the hypocrisy?
Why should the world continue to live the life of Ostrich?
A well known Nigerian journalist hid his other wives from his wife because his religion would not permit of it and his wife, living in monogamy should not hear of it. At his funeral service, other wives surfaced and the woman parading the ring collapsed. It was the grace of God that prevented double interment that day!
The Western world which had not learnt the art of living amicably with more than one partner under the same roof has indulged in multiple serial marriages, divorcing innocent wives under flimsy excuses so that another woman can move in should not be measure of standard for the world. Thank God Hillary Clinton in the US and Mrs Cook in England were very much wiser. They refused to allow "some indiscretion" on the part of their husbands to ruin their marriages.
There was a well known American actor who passed on about a decade ago and all his 11 ex-wives with their numerous children attended his funeral. To ridicule the lie of their hypocritical existence, all the women were recognised and addressed as wives. As far as records show, the man had 11 wives!
Society, especially we Nigerians just like Kenyans and others have done, must start to rethink this issue of pretentious monogamy vis-à-vis polygamy so that in the not-too-distant future we do not end up with millions of unmarried women whose life style would be worse than prostitutes’ and millions of children whose fathers would be nowhere to be found.

DELAY IN MARRIAGE

Some girls mentality is very low just like low battery... You will hear them saying "I don't want to marry yet am still young"... "I don't even want to hear anything about marriage now am still enjoying my life"...
Girls at the age of 18-24 always attracts serious men who is fully ready to get married but at this age most of our girls never wish to hear anything about marriage... You will hear them saying "who marriage eeep, who care about marriage"..... But this girls will be having serious sex relationship with small boys of their age... I mean serious sex relationship because at this age, they always have high rate of boys, guys and men coming for them but they will prefer to chose those boys rather than the men.. They are still young to marry but they're not young to have sex with boys... If u even ask them why are you small girl having sex relationship like this... You will hear her asking you back "Who is small girl? Do u even know what I know? Are u expecting me not to be having sex at this my age? Do u want to kill me? And beside, what is your own problem with my own life? Abeg, pack well".
At the age of 25-27, parent will start asking them how far? Don't u have any one yet? Are u not planning to get married? Your mate are getting married? Or don't you know how old you are?... But mind you, parent only seems outside of their daughter not knowing that inside is finished.... With all this questions by her own parent she will now be thinking and asking her self some questions like... "My mate are getting married? Does it mean am old enough to marry? Hmmm but how should I go about it those my boyfriends are not a serious type... They're not even ready to marry yet.. Well, God knows the best I believe in God"... My sister, Did u just mention God?... Hmm!!!
At the age of 27-30... They will now start looking for men to marry not boys to have sex again... They will start looking for serious relationship that will lead to marriage... But the funniest this is that, at this age of 30 no men will be asking their hand in marriage... Though they will see men but those men will only want date from them not marriage... Then u will see them forcing their self to marry a man who didn't like to marry them... No single man at the age of 30-35 will like to marry a lady of 30-35 too instead they will be looking for girls of 20-25 to marry and that is why you will see some men going back to their village to find young girl to marry when they seems that those young girls in the city are not serious about marriage and those that serious too old for them.
At the age of 30-35, if you ask her why are u not marry yet by this your age it getting too late... You will hear her asking you some silly questions like... "Are you God? Or do you want to marry me? Single at 30 or 35 it's a crime? Did I see who will marry me I didn't marry him? God knows the best pls".
At this age of 30-35 they will start going to Church like never before... They will now be a fake serious type.. Her name will now change from Lizy for sure to Sis in Christ... At this age if u ask her for dating you will hear her saying "My brother, am not like them... Am looking for husband not dating if truly u love me go and see my parent for marriage I can't do anything without asking for my parent hands... But when she was 18-24 yrs she was doing everything without her parent hands.
But ladies, do you even know that no man want old version again? Everybody is looking for latest version. U don't expect a young man of 30yrs to marry you of 30yrs as his house wife... Men that will be interested to marry you will be men of 40 plus and mind you, those men have married with kids except you wanna be second or third wife and I know that naija lady will not want to be second or third wife.
Everything in life has it own season and time... No lady that is looking for husband now that didn't see who want to marry her when she was 18-24 yrs but by then, they're not serious because they're not looking for husband but they're looking for sex. Let's assuming u started having sex at the age of 16-20... Now you're 30yrs old... My sister can you count how many time u had sex? Well, let's 4get about that because I know u won't like that part at all.
But let me tell you, everything is not about prayer. God who created you has made a plan for you but when you by yourself changed the plan or miss the road you will now be shouting God where are you... When God is shouting my daughter where are u.. You're there doing Shakara, enjoying your life and taking men for granted.
Why do we have high rate of single mothers and single ladies nowadays? Does it mean no men again? You will see that the old are there not getting married why the young ones are getting married. You as a orderly or senior sister never marry your younger or junior sisters are getting married.... You will now be asking God some stupid questions like "God why me? I mine not your daughter again? Do you want me to kill myself before u know what to do?"... After asking God those questions you will now go to your parent and be asking them some nonsense questions like "Mum what are u doing with my situation? Don't u want me to get married? Mum you need to do something ooh because I will commit suicide ooh."..... But why are u telling your mum before u commit the suicide? When you're committing sex and rejecting men did u tell your mum then? My sister, there is a time for everything... Don't let your time pass over you before you will start running after it.
They says grap your copy before it too late... Don't be too selective... Do not follow handsome... Nobody knows tomorrow,,, poor man today may be rich man tomorrow... I pray that God will by his mercy provide a better man (husband) for you.. Amen!.

Like our Facebook for more stories

Secret of Happy Marriage

Copied

Many years ago, I used to interpret the saying "Marriage is not for small boys" to mean small boys in terms of age, until I visited a female mentor that has been in marriage for 47 years.
I asked, so what is the secret of your over 47 years in marriage?
Beaming, she retorted; My son, the expectations you bring into marriage will either spell its doom or success. I married my husband without expectations of enjoying his money or buying cars for me, but with time, my patience, hard work and God-fearing attitude yielded results of getting cars, houses, taking care of our children and all that.
You see, if a married lady keeps on nagging in the house, she pushes the spirit of her husband from the home. If you make the man unhappy, you make the house uncomfortable.
So, I married without high expectations from my husband but simply to make him happy always.
Yes, for the past 47 years, I would be the first to get up from bed and the last to go back to bed. I bath the kids, do devotions with them, prepare breakfast for my husband and boil hot water for him to bath. I iron his clothes he would take to work, kiss him and wish him the best in his daily endeavours.
I asked my old woman, so then what does the man do in return? She laughed all heart and hearty and replied; You see, this is the mistake you young ones make in marriage.
YOU DO SOMETHING FOR YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE AND EXPECT SAME REWARD FROM HIM OR HER, THIS IS WRONG!
When it becomes your attitude to only please your husband or wife always, the other person responds naturally. Indeed, if nothing touches the palm tree, it doesn't rattle.
She continued, my son, never carry "how rich or poor your family is" into marriage. After all, you knew very well the status of your family and decided to marry that man or woman.
Love only compels/leads would-be couples into marriage but it doesn't sustain marriage. Rather, understanding, patience, communication and most importantly, forgiveness sustain every marriage. High expectations are the symptoms of divorce in marriages.
Sometimes you hear, I want to marry a mother, a business partner, God fearing person etc. You cannot get all your expectations in one person. With time and depending on your relationship, you may get some. So minimise your expectations in marriage.
To cut the long story short, as too many cooks spoil the broth, she concluded on the mistakes a couple should resist at all cost in marriage:
1) Never say you have made your wife or husband somebody from a nobody. It hurts. God only used you as an agent for transformation, give the glory to God.
2) Let the man be head of the home no matter the financial, economic,
physical and emotional health situation prevailing in the couple's life whilst the woman exercises diligence in the use of the tongue.
3) Having children should not be the ultimate objective in marriage. They are given to enhance your marriage. When God delays in giving you a child, have every reason to live a happy marital life.
4) Sex is a major morale booster after a hard day's stressful life. Try to be sexual beings and not "Angels" in that marriage
5) Resort to God often and less to men to solve your marital disputes.
6) Let the women " Make up" their characters much more than they make up their body.
Indeed, marriage is not for small boys because small boys struggle to forgive, demand everything speedily, lack the patience to wait, have so many friends etc.
Make every effort to let that marriage work and may God help us.
©Marriage Clinic

Like our Facebook page for more readings

The Strange Woman in My Matrimonial Bed

Copied (Marriage Solution)

Very Useful for our Women

THE STRANGE WOMAN IN MY MATRIMONIAL BED. ...(Written by Otulana Funso)

My husband walked into the house looking dull....No hug, no kiss, no hello!
"He must have had a very rough day" I thought to myself
"Afterall, Abuja to Ijebu-Ode is a very long journey"
He went straight to His room, without uttering a word. (Dennis and I had separate rooms.) Though, we were free to sleep together in any of our rooms, I allowed him to rest and slept in my personal room instead.
By sunrise, I had prepared his favourite meal and set the table. Dennis came out of his room, fully dressed ready to hit the road.
"Hi Honey, hope you had a restful night?" I tried to engage him...He just nodded grudgingly, but did not say a word.
"Oh! How I miss his soft touch and his romantic style of greeting...the way he calls my name, kiss my face, and sometimes he gently lifts me off the ground"
Whistling, he simply carried his briefcase, picked his car keys and zoomed off without even tasting my food or saying goodbye. I was perturbed and dumbfounded. "What is wrong with this man?.... In our 8 years of marriage, I have never seen him like this. This is so strange!"
I managed to put myself together, as my son was already late for school. I served junior his breakfast and we set out for school.
On getting to school, I realised that I had forgotten the school's bank teller at home. It was a new term and we needed to pay school fees. After sending the boy to his class, I went straight to the Admin block to pick up another teller, so as to pay my ward's tuition.
"Good morning, madam Bridget, how may I help you ?"
"Good morning Mr Nelson.. Pls I need another bank teller so I can pay my son's tuition. I left the previous teller at home."
"But madam, didn't your husband tell you?"
"My who?...My husband??... tell me what??"
"Madam, your husband was here yesterday around noon, he requested for a bank teller and made instant payment by transfer to our bank. He settled all your child's bills.
"Whatt!!!....You mean my husband was here yesterday?"
"Yes madam, he even spoke to the HM, you can confirm from her."
"Mister Nelson, Are you okay at all? Do you know what you are saying?
"Yes Madam...Wait, let me quickly get you the details"
"Mister Nelson, you must be out of your mind! Why did you give him the teller, without directing him to me? Don't you know that I am the one responsible for making payments? Why didn't you call me to notify me first? You must be very stupid to commit such a blunder"
Gosh! I was very furious, I wanted to literarily tear him apart. I knew that His ignorance & negligence was going to cost me. Only that I didn't know that it would cost me everything.
By this time, I had created a big scene in the school. Teachers/staff ran towards us from every direction. The shouts of "madam sorry", "take it easy ma" filled the air.
I wanted to quickly do a damage control...I pulled away from the crowd, opened my bag, pulled out my phone to call my husband but his iPhone was switched.
While I was standing there, thinking of the next step to take, A call came in...it was My husband's Travel Agent. He called to inform me that my husband had cancelled our flight and our travel plans for vacation (a seven nation tour around Europe). My husband has also asked that my passport be withheld until further notice. (He gave me the information in confidence)
Just when I was lamenting about my shattered dream of a sweet vacation with my husband....
My bank Account officer's call came through, She informed me that my husband had pulled out from a major international business deal. The deal was at the final stage and my husband had earlier promised me that he would fund the project 100%. (I wanted to just enter the ground.)
Not quite five minutes after, My husband's car dealer also called to inform me that my dream car would no longer be delivered as planned.
OMG! The bad news were just too much for me. Suddenly, My bones grew weak, my voice was gone, and my throat was very dry. (I thought I was having partial stroke)
I left the school premises feeling totally exposed /naked, dejected and heart broken. I sat down in the car and wept bitterly.
I didn't realise that The little foxes can really mess up the big vines. My secret sins have finally caught up with me
"Sitting in my car, even with the air conditioner set to the lowest temperature, I was sweating profusely."
"I cannot forget in a hurry how I allowed my bestie, Tega, to brainwash me with her sweet talks. She often told me how she makes a lot of money (off her husband) from the house keep allowance, house help allowance, school fees, NEPA bills, estate security/maintenance bills, even at every opportunity she gets. (She calls it.. extra income for the "Super-Smart Big Gurls")
Ever since Junior entered primary school, I made up my mind to become a super-smart big gurl....Since, I the one in charge of liaising with the school and sorting out everything about junior's academics. It was very easy for me to cut corners. My husband usually sends the money to my account, He sends whatever amount I ask him to send for school fees. (Since he works outside the city and only comes home fortnightly)
While our son was in Primary 1 & 2, on many occasions, I collected up to 4 times the total amount requested by the school from my husband.
Now that our son is in primary 3...My husband called me to send details of the school bills to him. Even Yesterday morning, he asked me to confirm the details again to him via SMS or chat. He promised to send the money, latest today by 12 noon.
Though the total bill was just about one hundred thousand naira, I sent inflated figures to my husband, requesting for a sum of about half a million naira (about  5 times the real value.)
My husbands totally trusts me and doesn't have any reasons to doubt me until now.
Eventually, I managed to put the car back on the road. (Though I wasn't if I was the one driving the car...my heart was racing)
On getting home, fidgeting, I went to my husband's room...there, lying on his table, I found a note written in my husband's handwriting:

TO THE STRANGE WOMAN IN MY BEDROOM:
"Yesterday, I came home much earlier than you expected. I wanted to surprise you with a piece of property (a multilevel building) that I just acquired for you in central district of Abuja... Infact, I purchased the property IN YOUR NAME.
While I looking for a safe place in your room to put the building documents, I stumbled on junior's school bill for this term. I also noticed that you have clearly doctored the bill. I didn't believe it...so I gave you another chance to tell me the truth (when I asked you to confirm the bill again via chat, yesterday morning) but instead, you sent me exaggerated figures again.
I was forced to trace the school yesterday afternoon, just to confirm what you sent to me (Hoping that I was wrong about you)....only to discover that what you sent to me is way over and above what the school actually require.
I can't believe that I have been living with a lying woman and a cheat. How am I sure that the one I call Junior, is even my son? When I get back to town, we will go for a #DNA #test."
That was when I realised what Jesus meant when he said: "it is finished" ....my marriage of 8 years was completely finished!
I had betrayed my husband's trust. How would I ever earn his trust again?
Even if he forgives me, Can he ever trust me again? Can I say I still have a marriage? Can this marriage still work?
I want all women (single & married) to learn from my story. No matter the freedom or freehand you are given...pls #don't #abuse #it.  It is the little foxes (of lying, hiding things) that spoil the vine of good relationships/marriage.  Be faithful, loyal, open, truthful, and straight forward with your partner, in all things and at all times. You may not cheat by having extra marital affair but I hope you are not cheating in some other underground or silent ways?
Pls kindly share on all women platforms. (Tag the women in your life)
I look forward to reading your comments.
Thanks for reading through.
Written by Otulana Olufunso.

Like our Facebook page

© Marriage Solution (WhatsApp Group)

Sex, Cheating and Death

A man can cheat on his woman and still love her but a woman cannot cheat on her man and still love him. I say this because while men do not have sex with emotions, women can't have sex without attaching emotions to it. This is the reason men simply need a place to have sex while women need a reason to have sex.
Most women who take their husbands to court for divorce are those that cheat on their men. A non cheating woman would most likely never take her husband to court for divorce, unless the man exceedingly abuses her physically and emotionally to the point of killing her.
Men don't equate sex with love. A man can have sex with another woman but still doesn't love her. That's why women who fell in love with married men find it difficult to find happiness in those relationships as they are just being used by those married men. But once a married woman starts sleeping with you, she can even narrates some hidden secretes concerning her husband and she will even tell you why she hates him (her husband). She can even accept poison from you to eliminate her husband.
For men, sex and love are two different things. But for women, sex and love are one and the same things. For men, sex comes first before love (infatuation), but for women love comes first before sex (true love). Therefore, once your woman starts having sex with another man/men, her love shifts from you to that man and she can even start giving that man the best food and love than she gives you.
The fact that your man is cheating on you doesn't mean he has stopped loving you. But I can't say the same for women. Once a woman starts cheating on you, she has fallen for someone else and you people will never live the same again. And she can even kill her husband once she starts cheating on him.
If your wife starts cheating, you should be a lucky man not to die in less than 10 years. It has been found that 95% of women who cheat wish their husbands dead. That is the main reason why it is dangerous for a man to continue staying with a wife who cheats on him. That is why is now encouraged everywhere in the world including in the Bible, for a man to divorce his wife only once she starts cheating on him. Cheating women are more deadly to husbands than ordinarily criminals or weapons. There are many cheating women in the world who invite criminals to break into her house at night only to come and eliminate her man and police officers plus relatives can't detect this as the same woman tend to moan more than any person at the funeral so as to attract sympathy and hide her evil acts.
That's why psychologists discourage women,more than men, from cheating.
Women can't handle the emotional conflict that comes with cheating.
That's the reason an observant and intelligent man will notice that his wife has started cheating on him once he starts doing it because most women tend to lose respect to their husbands and try to avoid sex with them in most times.
Cheating Women will even be giving excuses for not wanting to have sex with their husbands. Study has revealed that nearly 90% of women who cheat find it hard to have enjoyable sex with their husbands, again an intelligent man will detect this once his wife's behavior with regard to sex start changing. But a dull man can never detect this and always tolerate fake excuses from his cheating wife until he is completely eliminated.
Study has shown that every relationship begins to flounder once a woman starts cheating. There are many men who cheat on their partners but still show them true love. But it is very hard to find a relationship in which a woman is cheating and things still remain the same.
I repeat, nearly 100% of cheating women wish their husbands quick death or divorce to have unlimited sex freedom while nearly 100% of cheating men can't wish their wives quick death or divorce. That is why most men cant allow their wives to be physically or verbally abused by their girlfriends. Men will always stand for their wives.
A man would cheat but still love and respect his wife, but the opposite is true with cheating women.
Once your wife starts sleeping with other men/man, just know that your death is near.

Like our Facebook page
# copied

BLISSFUL HOME TONIC

Copied

Secret 1
Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength.

Secret 2
Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.

Secret 3
Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges.  Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow *For better for worse*. In sickness and in health be there.

Secret 4
Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.

Secret 5
To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:
Ignorance
Prayerlessness
Unforgiveness
Third party influence
Stinginess
Stubbornness
Lack of love
Rudeness
Laziness
Disrespect
Cheating
_Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone._

Secret 6
There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages.

Secret 7
God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience

Secret 8
Getting married is taking a huge risk. You can not predict what will happen in the future.  Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. Husband can lose his good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce.

Secret 9
Marriage is not a contract. It is  permanent. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce.

Secret 10
Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.

So today let us pray for our marriages and ask God to help us where we are lacking in the marriage. Send to those you care about because  you never know who may be helping. May God bless you all.

@Marriage Solutions

Like our Facebook page to read more

DATE WHO IS DATING YOU

Copied

To fall in love is not a do or tie affair.

Understand when someone is using you and when he/she is loving you..

Not every delay is demonic; most are caused by pretenders and selfish lovers..

Stop dying in silence..
Date who is dating you..

~ Shine Your Eyes ~~~

(1) There are men who act above their friendship limit as if they have paid your bride price yet their intention is still unknown..

" baby I will come and see your people "

~ For where???

~ It has become a yearly anthem.

Note: The greatest intention is one defined with action not promises..

~ Define what you're doing with him.

~ Don't block potential husband because of a romantic boyfriend..

(2) if you're dating a lady over six months and she is still demanding for more time without tangible reasons...

Brother, she is comparing you with another..
Some ladies are good in keeping a man stagnant.

(3) " You are a good woman any man will be blessed to have you"

~ My sister, put on your thinking cap..

~ That place you're taking your firewood ; there is no kitchen there..

(4) Any woman that demands for what she can't afford, can delay your wedding.

~ Forget that name " baby" focus on body language..

(5) Avoid any man that will use you to satisfy his emotional needs..

~ He is a time waster!

~ Have you asked yourself, why after two or three months of professing love, you won't see them again?

~ They came to use you not to make you a wife..

~ It is not who came first that matters but who came and never left; that's the real man..

(6) A lady who fears God, will not delay your wedding, Check her personal relationship with God not "Church"....

(7) A relationship that will bear good fruit,doesn't give headache..

~ Marriage is not on my mind now..
~ If you see someone you can marry oo
~ I have some things to sort out now..
~ I'm planning something ( every year)

* These are tricks of delay...
* Use your tongue and count your teeth.

NOTE: When a  man is ready; he doesn't give excuses..

(8)  Marry a lady who can see your future, she will not delay your wedding..

~Be mindful of a woman who conclude on you because of your today..

(9) Asking to know is NEVER desperation..

~ Don't assume to be in love where there is no commitment...

Be calm but wise..
Fall in love but use your brain..
Love isn't foolish....

©Marriage Clinic

Like our Facebook page

YOUR PARTNER’S PHONE IS NOT YOURS

A lot of couples, especially women, believe that the ultimate sign of faithfulness in their relationships is if they have access to their partner’s phones and social media accounts.
“If he is not cheating, why won’t he give me his password?”
“If she is not cheating, why does she not let me read her chats?”
The thing is, someone could give you access to his phones and still cheat on you. Someone could show you her chats, her messages, her inbox, but still be dating behind your back.
What’s the point in being with someone you are constantly suspicious of? You might as well follow him everywhere he goes. You might as well follow her to work, to the saloon, to the store. Everywhere.
The fact that you are married or in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean they don’t have private lives of their own anymore. It doesn’t mean you are entitled to read their conversations with their friends, relatives and colleagues.
There’s nothing wrong with having access to your partner’s phones. But if you only want access so you can keep tabs, check on their chats and messages, then you have a problem. A trust problem.
When you know someone is always watching you, you’re always nervous and edgy. You get paranoid over even the most harmless things. You don’t have the freedom to be yourself anymore.
If both partners agree on open access to phones and the likes, that’s fine, but if one is not okay with it, the other partner should respect that and not try to force or guilt-trip them into doing things their way. In the long run it would breed resentment, anger and ruin things.
Kindly share and don't forget to like our page for more dating tips for a healthy, happy and long lasting relationship.

©Twitter @R_talk1

OUR SEX LIFE IS AMAZING BUT THE MARRIAGE SUCKS

Copied

I woke up horny.
I started touching my wife on her breasts.
I flipped her over. Got on top of her.
I started kissing her, but she seemed not interested.
I turned my game up. Kissed her on her neck as I spread her legs. She looked off.
"What's wrong?" I asked.
"Us" she said.
"What do you mean?" I asked.
"The only thing we do great together is having sex" She said.
"I thought you love our sex. I am faithful to you, I don't cheat" I told her.
"I do. You sex me good. But marriage is more than sex. It is not enough to be faithful, marriage needs to have depth, substance; not centered around sex. I don't want us to be two empty souls that are faithful to each other. We had it, we used to have depth.
I want us to talk, to laugh, to pray, to date again even in our marriage, to cuddle, to make memories, to play with our children, to travel and see the world, to debate on topics like we used to, to play a sport, to go for concerts, to have intimacy in our marriage. What we currently have is not marriage, but a sexual arrangement. Sex is just not enough" she lamented.
"Ouch! That's painful" said I.
"The painful truth" said she.
I started stroking her hair gently and said, "You are right. Things changed when we got kids, life got busy I guess"
She looked at me and said, "Darling people make time for what is important.
I want to be more than the mother of your children, I am your wife, I want to feel like a wife. I want quality time with you like we used to have; not alot, just enough. I want to be loved and talked to. I want our time. When was the last time you stroked my hair like you are right now?"
"A long time ago" I answered.
She placed her finger on my lips and said, "Exactly, you haven't taken time to look at me because we both are always in a hurry.
You know a woman doesn't ask for much. Even something as little as you stroking my hair touches my heart. So many wives are tired of sex in their marriage: They fake orgasms, fake headaches or exhaustion and some pretend they are on their periods just to escape having sex with their husbands because they don't feel married.
I want to feel married my love. I don't want to become like those women. This home is not a lodge for you to come, sleep, get sex then leave day in day out. This is our home, our bed, our marriage. I need you my husband"
"I need you too" i told her and kissed her.
The kiss was sweet, intense, not rushed and not sexual. It was intimate.
I reclined back to the bed.
I placed her head on my chest and for a while we talked as i played with her fingers. We laughed, randomly prayed, opened up and emotionally connected.
Since then, our marriage is not centered around sex; and when we do have sex, it's not sex, it's making love.
Have you made your marriage empty as you hide behind sex? There is more to Marriage than Sex.

Please spice up your Marriage.
Drop your habits that can ruin your home and then you blame it on the devil.

God bless us all.

© Chidi E. Ezeagu

Follow our fb page

SEX IS SWEET AND GOOD

Most downfalls of men are caused by MULTIPLE girlfriends.
Sex is a spiritual encounter I stand to be corrected, not every girl has a good spirit, some are demon, some has poison in between their legs, some are killers and destiny destroyers, be careful. A man who
can control his sexual urge is a man who can live many years on earth.

1. Having many girlfriends does not make you a man. It only makes you a womanizer, a cheat and a boy.

2. A real man has only one woman in his life.

3. For the fact that you are good in bed does not make you a man. A real man is the man who does not run away from his responsibility but faces it squarely.

4. You don't need to sag your trousers and walk round the street before girls will love you. In fact it is only small boys that sag trousers and it is premature little girls that fall in love with men who sag trousers.

5. Don't use and dump ladies. Remember the law of karma. Whatever you do, you will receive the reward.

6. If you cannot make her your wife, don't make her a mother. If she can't be your wife don't sleep with her.

7. Do not obey your erection at all times. Most times our erections mislead us to the wrong direction. Control your erection. Don't let your erection control you. If you
don't you will have few days on earth with much poverty on you. You may insult me but it doesn't matter to me now, because am done telling you this.

8. It is not everything you see under skirt that you should hustle to eat, some skirts contain snakes that will bite you and leave you uncomfortable. Control your sex urge. Self control and abstinence in most cases pays a lot.

9. Do not date a lady because she has sexy curves, boobs and shapes. Those things are just packaging; and packaging can be very
deceptive avoid such.

10. Respect any lady that loves you. Yes, its not easy for a lady to throw her love on you and support your future.

11. Do not beat any woman, even if she is not your wife.

12. Real man learn how to keep secret, not all that happens in your home that you turn to discussion outside with friends or family.

BE THE REAL MAN.

©Copied and edited

She is my wife, not my slave

Copied

"Baby, leave my breast let me watch this movie in peace na, you de rush the breast like say na shawarma wey you thief "

"Don't tell me that oh, when I married you, I paid for my breast too, besides eh, this movie I'm watching is not as interesting as what I am touching "

Amina almost choked with laughter

"Okay, just put your hand inside since it's scratching you, ashawo husband like you"

"See you forming good person, when night reach now, you be wriggling like someone under annointing. You that does not allow me to sleep in the night, you de run marathon like all these people for Ethiopia and Kenya "

Amina looked at Abdul, pretending to be angry.

"So because I  de try manage you, you de run mouth ba? No worry, no show for you this night, konji go kill you this night, bet me" she said stretching out her hands.

"If dem born you well make you try am. I will cry till the whole neighbors will wake up and ask what the problem is, I will tell them my wife does not want me to sacrifice to the gods "

She laughed hard again and gave him a mild kiss.

"Oya, see eh, just make me my favorite food na, by the time the meal is ready, I will be done with the movie "

Abdul quickly runs to the kitchen and puts on his apron as he proceeds to make her favourite food,  jollof rice and fried plantain.

Just then there is a knock on the door and Amina opens the door to welcome Smith, Abdul's friend.

They exchange pleasantries and she tells him that Abdul is in the kitchen.

"Kitchen?" he asked with a surprise look on his face.

"What is he doing there? "

"He is planting mango in the kitchen sink, ofcourse he is cooking " Amina said with a smirk on her face. She's never liked him.

"So your husband is in the kitchen cooking while you watch TV?"

Just as she was about to reply him, Abdul comes out from the kitchen.

"Abdul wassup, I was just asking of you, your wife said you were in the kitchen " Smith said with a grin on his face.

"You make it sound like its a bad thing man, how far na" Abdul said.

Smith drags Abdul aside

"But bro, this is wrong by all standards, how can you be cooking while your wife sits with the remote, watching TV? This isn't normal. This kind of thing cannot happen in my house na, a whole man like you, do you know how many girls used to rush you back in those days"

Abdul wipes his hands on the apron as he shakes his head.

"Smith Smith, why did you come here sef? "

"I came to inform you that we will be meeting later at the club , I called you but you didn't take your calls,now that I have seen you on your apron, I'm not surprised "

"Smith my good friend, first thing first,I am not you and will never be you. What works in your Family might not work for mine and I don't even want it to. My wife cooks everyday for me so what's the big deal in cooking for her just for today?  I am always with my wife in the kitchen  everyday to help her out, and so you know, I wash my clothes and hers when I have the time and I don't leave her to do the chores alone. She's my wife, not my slave "

At this point Smith didn't know what to say, he just stood there like a dumb lunatic.

"Look Smith, no two marriages are the same, do what you like but don't kill Rachel in the process. Have you seen your wife lately?  She looks like a frustrated mad woman, so thin and almost invisible and you are here, forming man of the house "

Smith brings out his handkerchief and wipes his face.

"I won't come to the club today, in fact, I won't come for a while. My wife doesn't like clubbing that much and since she gave up her modeling career to do business because of me, I need to let go of somethings too. I need to get back to the kitchen, my regards to the boys "

Smith hasten his steps as he walks out of the house.

"My husband my husband, double ration for you this night, correct man wey sabi. Infact you see eh, de go that kitchen, make I do u rush rush inside"😂😂😂😂😂😂

"Baby make I rush off the gas make we no do rough play burn house "

#Leave people alone and stop forcing your policies on them

#What works for you might not work for them, don't try to make people live like you except it's to make them better.

#Marriage is a union of happiness, make your home a playground, not a war zone .

Share the chores, don't call her a weaker vessel and still give her all the hard work to do.
©

Like our Facebook page

For Health and Wealth Business Opportunity; Whatsapp me on 08035645516

Marriage: From Wrong Point of View

Copied

Many marriages are just for sleeping and waking up, raising kids and ageing together till death comes. This is not right. Marriage must be enjoyable and romantic.
1.Many couples hardly kiss and they only hug each other when they receive good news.
2. The husband only puts food in his wife's mouth only when she is terminally ill and cant feed herself.
3. If you see a man opening car door for his wife means the door is faulty.
4. The only thing that makes an african man touch his wife's neck is when she complains of fever. He wont touch it again till the next fever.
5.The only time he can carry his wife on his arms is when she is in labour.
6. If you see them seated outside at night, dont think they are romantic. They are only waiting for the smell of insecticide to vanish.
7.Many wives buy gifts for their husbands only when they are hospitalized.
8.The only time they race together is when there is danger and everyone is running.
9.The only time they go for evening stroll is when they want to go and lay a complain to the parents of the person that beat their child or got their daughter pregnant.
10. The only time they bath together is when both are late for work.
11. The only time a wife looks closely to her husband's eyes is when he complains of dirt in his eyes.
Unfortunately, Africans feel that any romantic man is being controlled by his wife. They will begin to spread bad rumours. Let us just change today for the better. Let us learn to love one another and enjoy the few days we have on earth together!

©Source: Mamalette Group

Like our FB page

For Health and Financial Business Opportunity

Let's Deliberate

Points To Assist a Declining Relationship

 (Submitted by a Muslim fan of this page)

The Hadith questions the manhood of a person who beats his wife up during the day and derives pleasure from her during the night.

Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work.

Following these basic principles should help any marriage to improve.

The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence:

💟Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated.
 
Amidst busy schedules and tasks on the parts of both women and men, Muslim husbands and wives tend to forget the real reasons behind marriage and likewise the rights of each other.

Subsequently, they deprive themselves, their mates and their children of the happiness and tranquility that is the bedrock of a successful family. This unbalanced vision towards a couple’s ideal relationship is bad enough to plunge the family into a situation laden with troubles and worries.
 
💟Negative Relationship between Husband & Wife

💟Some Muslim spouses relate to each other like adversaries rather than life time partners.

💟The husband assumes the position of dictator, and whatever he says is not law.

The wife on the other hand feels that she must squeeze everything she can out of her husband.

💟 Some wives do not express their gratitude to their husbands irrespective of how much the man may do for her.
Instead they adopt an attitude of ‘never enough’ and make the husband feel like a failure if he does not provide every want and desire their extravagant lifestyles dictate.

💟Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and even physically abuse them.
Their wives have no voice or opinion in family matters.

Moreover certain husbands become so cold and miserly that even the basic expenditure for the house is difficult to come by.
 
⚛Nikkah – A divine institution

The Nikkah bond has been divinely established for the welfare and upkeep of a healthy and progressive community.

This divine prescription has been unjustly utilised as a vehicle to perpetrate oppression, deception, humiliation, and abuse.

Allah Ta’ala describes marriage very differently in the Noble Quran:

‘And from his signs are, He created for you wives from among yourselves, so that you may live in tranquillity with them, and instilled love and mercy between your (hearts) . . . “(30:21)
 
⚛Head of the Home

The position Islam has accorded to the man as the head of the home is a responsibility which will be accounted for, rather than a privilege which should be abused.

We are taught to treat our wives well.  Muhammad Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) has reported to have said:

‘The person possessing the most perfect faith is one who has excellent behaviour, and the best among you are those who are best towards their wives” (Mishkat)
 
⚛Be Partners in Decision Making

Follow the principle of ‘Shura,”
(consultation) and make decisions as a family.

Implementing this Sunnah within the home increases harmony and love between family members.

It will also assist in enhancing trust and loyalty between spouses and the children.
 
⚛Abuse

Abstain totally from every form of emotional, mental, or physical abuse to your spouse.
 
Watch Your Words
Be very careful what you say when you are upset.

The wounds afflicted to the heart of a person by words will never heal and remain a lifelong memory.

Sometimes you will say things that you would never say when you were not angry.

Apply the directives found in the Hadith for suppression of anger.
 
⚛Work Together in the House

Muhammad Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) consistently assisted his wives with household chores.

When Muhammad Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) did not consider the housework trivial, how can we today obligate our wives to all the house work and much more?
 
🗣Communication is Important

Talk to each other, communicate, have a dialogue, but do it respectfully.

Husbands and wives need to talk to each other.
It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until they explode.
 
⚛Live Simply

Do not envy or cast your gaze towards those spouses who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family.

Be pleased with what you have.
The grass will always look greener on the other side.

The wealthiest person is the one who has attained contentment of heart. 💓

To develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more.

Repeatedly thank Allah Ta’ala for the many blessings in your life.
 
⚛Admit Your Mistakes

When you make a mistake, admit it.

When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily.

If possible, never sleep angry with each other.
 Forget Past Problems
Everything that has happened is history.

Repent for the past and live for the future.

Do not focus discussion on the past unless it is something that will make both of you laugh.

 
🤲The Duaa (Prayer) for a blissful marriage:

(O Allah! grant us such wives and offspring who will be a source of coolness for our eyes, and make us leaders of the Allah-Fearing)
 
Follow our FB page

To Our Dear Married Women

Copied

"People with leaking roof always advice people with faulty door to pack out of their home"

Run away from friends who tell you to leave your home because you had misunderstanding with your husband.

Run away from friends who tell you their husband never raised their voices at them let alone hitting them, especially when you went to them for advice.

Run away from friends who tell you how lavishly their husband spend money on them!

Run away from friends who ask you why you of all people ended up marrying your husband.

Run away from friends who tell you your husband doesn't fit you!

Run away from friends who tell you they wish they were married to certain man and not their husband.

Run away from friends who tell you how romantic and caring someone else's husband is.

Run away from friends who tell you the money your husband drops for cooking and upkeep is not good enough.

Run away from friends who tell you how their husband serve them breakfast in bed!
The question is ...

Have you seen their husband spending lavishly on them?

Have you seen their husband serving them breakfast in bed?

Do you know if their husbands drop feeding money for them?

I wish you had a camera fixed in your home so you could have a playback and see how lustfully she looked at your husband.

Your marriage is your pride.
Protect it!
God bless you.

©

Like our fb page

For the price of our relationship ebooks: ask admins

IMPORTANCE OF A HUSBAND FROM ISLAMIC POINT OF VIEW

(NB: This is not religious post. We post it to deduct the happy relationships. Thanks for your understandings) - Admin

Copied

The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ asked one of the Companion's wives: "Have you got a husband?" She said: "Yes." He asked: "How do you treat him?" She replied: "I spare no pains in obeying him, except what I cannot do." The Prophet then said: "Make sure that you obey him, because he is your Paradise or Hellfire" (Tirmidhi)
=========================
The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: "If a woman dies while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter Paradise." (Tirmidhi)
=========================
The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month (Ramadan), guards her chastity, and obeys her husband (always) she will enter Jannah." (Bukhari)
=========================
The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ was asked: "Which of women is best?" He said: “The one who makes (her husband) happy when he looks at her, obeys him when he tells her to do something, and does not disobey him with regard to herself or her wealth in a way that he dislikes.” (Nasaai)
=========================
The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: "If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anything other than Allah, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands.
=========================
By the One in Whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, no woman will fulfil her duty towards her Lord unless she fulfils her duty towards her husband, and if he asks her for herself when she is sitting on a saddle, she should not refuse him." (Ibn Maajah
=========================
*The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: "It is not right for any human being to prostrate to another; if it were right for one human being to prostrate to another, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands because of the great rights that they have over them. By the One in Whose hand is my soul, if a man were covered from head to foot with weeping sores oozing pus, and his wife were to come to him and lick his sores (to clean them), this would not fulfil the rights he has over her." (Ahmad)*
=========================
The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: "If Allah has blessed any of you with a good wife, He has helped him with half his deen, so he should fear Allah with the other half." (Hakim)
=========================
The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: “No woman annoys her husband but his wife among Al-Hoor Al-’Ayn says, ‘Do not annoy him! May Allah destroy you (Literally ‘Kill you’)! For he is just a temporary guest with you and soon he will leave you and join (come tous‘.” (Ahmed, Tirmidhi, ibn Majah)
=========================
The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: “There are three whose prayers will not be accepted and they will not ascend to heaven or even go beyond their heads: … a woman whose husband calls her at night and she refuses.” (Targhib wal-Tarhib)
=========================
The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: “If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and he stays angry with her all night, the angels will curse her until morning.” (Bukhari, Muslim)
=========================
The Prophet ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: “Any woman who asked for a divorce for no reason, the fragrance of Paradise is forbidden to her.” (Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood, Ibn Maajah)
=========================
"Whether the husband wants to discipline his wife, or forgive her, or take another wife, or divorce her, this is all up to him to choose. Let the woman beware of incurring her husband’s wrath because this will lead to Allaah’s being angry with her." - Sh. Muhammad Al-Munajjid
=========================
"If a Man is married with a righteous wife, he will live a harmonious life even if he is poor" - Sh. Saleh Al-Fawzan
=========================
The blessings for a woman being a righteous wife and a man having the righteous wife is pleasure in this world and the next when we meet Allah...
=========================
When Imam ibn Hanbal's wife passed away he said "Wallahi I lived with her for 40 years and we didn't argue once." He was asked how? He said "Whenever she got upset and tried to argue, I stayed quiet. And whenever I was upset and tried to argue she stays quiet"

For ebook on solutions premature ejaculation contact the admin for the price

For ebook on how to win the heart of your spouse contact the admin for the price

Like our FB page

WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE

1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.

2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.

3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.

4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.

5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.

6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in  her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.

9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.

10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all
along.

For ebook on solutions to premature ejaculation price

11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.

12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.

13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.

14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any
woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.

16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.

17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.

18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.

19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.

20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.

21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.

22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having
children to take care of you too.

Ebook on "How to win back your spouse" for the price

Like our Facebook page

INFERTILITY IN MEN AND WOMEN

By Dr Rowland Abímbólá
Originator Herbs 4 Healthy Living

Table of contents

Infertility happens when a couple cannot conceive after having regular unprotected sex.
It may be that one partner cannot contribute to conception, or that a woman is unable to carry a pregnancy to full term. It is often defined as not conceiving after 12 months of regular sexual intercourse without the use of birth control.

Worldwide, 8 to 12 percent of couples experience fertility problems. Between 45 and 50 percent of cases are thought to stem from factors that affect the man.

Treatment is often available.

CAUSES IN MEN
The following are common causes of infertility in men.

Semen and sperm
Semen is the milky fluid that a man's penis releases during orgasm. Semen consists of fluid and sperm. The fluid comes from the prostate gland, the seminal vesicle, and other sex glands.

The sperm is produced in the testicles.

When a man ejaculates and releases semen through the penis, the seminal fluid, or semen, helps transport the sperm toward the egg.

The following problems are possible:

Low sperm count: The man ejaculates a low number of sperm. A sperm count of under 15 million is considered low. Around one third of couples have difficulty conceiving due to a low sperm count.
Low sperm mobility (motility): The sperm cannot "swim" as well as they should to reach the egg.
Abnormal sperm: The sperm may have an unusual shape, making it harder to move and fertilize an egg.
If the sperm do not have the right shape, or they cannot travel rapidly and accurately towards the egg, conception may be difficult. Up to 2 percent of men are thought to have suboptimal sperm.

Abnormal semen may not be able to carry the sperm effectively.

This can result from:
A medical condition: This could be a testicular infection, cancer, or surgery.
Overheated testicles: Causes include an undescended testicle, a varicocele, or varicose vein in the scrotum, the use of saunas or hot tubs, wearing tight clothes, and working in hot environments.

Ejaculation disorders: If the ejaculatory ducts are blocked, semen may be ejaculated into the bladder
Hormonal imbalance: Hypogonadism, for example, can lead to a testosterone deficiency.

For ebook on solutions to premature ejaculation

OTHER CAUSES MAY INCLUDE
Genetic factors: A man should have an X and Y chromosome. If he has two X chromosomes and one Y chromosome, as in Klinefelter's syndrome, the testicles will develop abnormally and there will be low testosterone and a low sperm count or no sperm.

Mumps: If this occurs after puberty, inflammation of the testicles may affect sperm production.

Hypospadias: The urethral opening is under the penis, instead of its tip. This abnormality is usually surgically corrected in infancy. If the correction is not done, it may be harder for the sperm to get to the female's cervix. Hypospadias affects about 1 in every 500 newborn boys.

Cystic fibrosis: This is a chronic disease that results in the creation of a sticky mucus. This mucus mainly affects the lungs, but males may also have a missing or obstructed vas deferens. The vas deferens carries sperm from the epididymis to the ejaculatory duct and the urethra.

Radiation therapy: This can impair sperm production. The severity usually depends on how near to the testicles the radiation was aimed.

Some diseases: Conditions that are sometimes linked to lower fertility in males are anemia, Cushing's syndrome, diabetes, and thyroid disease.

Chemotherapy: Some types may significantly reduce sperm count.

Illegal drugs: Consumption of marijuana and cocaine can lower the sperm count.
Age: Male fertility starts to fall after 40 years.

Exposure to chemicals: Pesticides, for example, may increase the risk.
Excess alcohol consumption: This may lower male fertility. Moderate alcohol consumption has not been shown to lower fertility in most men, but it may affect those who already have a low sperm count.

Overweight or obesity: This may reduce the chance of conceiving.

Mental stress: Stress can be a factor, especially if it leads to reduced sexual activity.

CAUSES IN WOMEN
Infertility in women can also have a range of causes.

RISK FACTORS
Risk factors that increase the risk include:
AGE: The ability to conceive starts to fall around the age of 32 years.

SMOKING: Smoking significantly increases the risk of infertility in both men and women, and it may undermine the effects of fertility treatment. Smoking during pregnancy increases the chance of pregnancy loss. Passive smoking has also been linked to lower fertility.

ALCOHOL: Any amount of alcohol consumption can affect the chances of conceiving.

Being obese or overweight: This can increase the risk of infertility in women as well as men.

EATING DISORDERS: If an eating disorder leads to serious weight loss, fertility problems may arise.
THIS IS A COMPREHENSIVE TOPIC.

CONCLUSION:
It is advisable to treat Infertility cases with Orthodox medications and herbal preparation.

For link to Dr Rowland for herbal preparation

Like our Facebook page

Secrets of your Spouse

1. To Marry : Women looks Future of Men, but Men looks Past of Women.
2. Love : Women Likes Quality of Love, but Men likes Quantity of Love.
3. Search : Mostly Women Search for Character of Men. So its easier for her to forgive him but difficult to forget him, Whereas Mostly Men Likes Beauty of Women so if he find better one he can forget her but if she makes any mistake to him its difficult to forgive her.

Here are some tips to maintain a healthy relation with your spouse
Ways To Keep Your Wife's Love
1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce.
2. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere.
3. Be a good listener.
4. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, names she loves to hear.
5. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, God is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family.
6. Sit down and eat meals together.
7. Keep disputes between the two of you, don’t take it outside.
8. Don’t leave home in anger.
9.Don't ever compare your wife with others people's wives (it's kill them).
10.Women like attention and they like to be told clearly that they are loved. Don't be stingy in expressing your love for your wife.

Ways to Keep Your Husband's Love
1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female--a man doesn’t want a man for his wife.
2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.
3. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.
4. Don’t keep asking him, “what are you thinking?”
5. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.
6. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.
7. If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.
8. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
9. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.
10. Don't ever compare your husbands to other husbands! For example don't say, "well her husband doesn't do that, why do you" (thats a killer!)
11. Wake him up for prayer (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.

May God Almighty preserve all of our marriages and help us understand and implement them in and with the best of manners.

Amen

Follow us our Facebook page

No Perfect One

Just Comment Yes or No

Photo: Wikipedia

MARRY YOUR MATE

6 MATES YOU MUST CHOOSE TO MARRY FROM
One of the ways your marriage will not add to the rate of divorce in our world today is for you to marry your mate and if you are married already, make your spouse your mate!
You see that statement of ' Am I your mate?' does not apply in marriage. You must marry your mate. I will like to talk on six dimensions you and the person you want to marry or you have married must be mate.
1. MARRY YOUR SPEAKING MATE Marry someone you can speak together and understand each other. Communication is very crucial in marriage. Don't marry someone that, when you are saying 'A' he or she will be saying ' Z' Once there is dichotomy in your speaking and understanding level, you can't enjoy that marriage. So many men go to bar to hang out with friends and gist till 11pm because they know their wives can't engage in any meaningful intellectual discussion. So many women too prefer to hang out with their friends, because they know their husbands mentality when it comes to vital issues and discussions is very low. Marry your speaking Mate.
2. MARRY YOUR SCHOOL MATE
By this I mean, marry someone you can learn together and improve together. Don't marry ' Mr Know all' or 'Miss Know all'. Don't marry someone who is rigid and not open to new ideas, new ways of doing things, or new innovations. Marriage is a great institution. From day one till death do you part, you will keep learning. Marry your 'school' mate; someone who is ready to learn with you.
3. MARRY YOUR SPIRITUAL MATE Marriage is not just a social union. It is also a spiritual union. Marry someone who knows the same God you know. Don't marry someone who's believe of God is different from yours. Two can't work together except they be agreed. The spiritual controls the physical, even in marriage. Check for spiritual compatibility in that person you want to marry.
4. MARRY YOUR SPENDING MATE
Don't marry someone who is stingy. There are so many expenses to cater for in marriage. A stingy guy in courtship won't suddenly become a generous husband in marriage. Don't marry a lady that has the financial philosophy of ' My husband's money is our money, but my money is my money'. Marry someone who believes in dignity of labour , who is ready to work, not a lazy fellow who just want to be a consumer and not a contributor. Marry someone who is ready to spend and be spent for the growth and success of the family.
5. MARRY YOUR SEX MATE
Marry someone you have sexual feelings for. Sexual feeling is not a sin. It is an instinct God put in every person. Sex plays a major role in the success of any marriage. Any man you don't have emotional feelings for, don't marry the person. If you don't have emotional feelings for that lady, leave her alone. A spiritual being is also a sexual being. No matter how spiritual you both may be in your marriage, you won't be praying for 24 hours in a day. You won't be reading the Holy Book or worshipping God 24/7. You will have sex! You will romance! You will flirt with each other! You will make babies. So, marry someone you can connect with sexually. It will help you to enjoy your marriage so much!
6. MARRY YOUR SOCIAL MATE
Don't marry someone you won't be proud to go out with. Don't marry someone you will be feeling shy to introduce to people with boldness. Marry someone you are comfortable to hang out with. Marry someone you are socially compatible with. Don't marry an anti- social person.
You might be wondering if you can find all the 'mates' in one person. Yes! The answer is YES! You don't need to marry 6 guys/ladies to have all these mates. One person can be all that for you. If you also work on yourself and build your life, you can be all that for the guy/lady that will marry you.
The promise of God for you is this : 'Seek and read from the Holy book. Not one of these shall be missing; none shall be without her mate.Say it loud and clear ' I shall not lack a mate!'
I hope this message blessed you as a reader?
Keep sharing to bless singles and married

Follow us on Facebook

DON'T DIE IN ACTIVE SERVICE TRYING TO PLEASE HER SEXUALLY

Few weeks ago, I was called to see a patient , without delay I rushed down the stairs and headed to the hospital wards. The man was sitting in the back seat of the car that brought him, I watched closely and there was no respiratory efforts. I went for the pulse, not palpable , no cardiac activity, pupils were dialated ,fixed and unreactive to light. I watched foam rush through the mouth and nostrils. Obviously he is dead. Still panting from the unplanned exercise I did, I felt bad I couldn't do anything for him. Out of curiosity, I wanted to know how he got to that point. The wife, a young lady in her late 30s told me they were playing when suddenly he became distressed, struggling for air and she tried to calm him all to no avail then she raised alarm for help. I quickly asked if her husband was hypertensive and she admitted . I requested for his drugs, luckily they came with his drugs. I went through the drugs, I was able to identify some and they includes = digoxin, Viagra, lisinopril. I concluded the young man was in his late 40s "DIED IN ACTIVE SERVICE TO THE WIFE" from heart attack. My assumption might be right or wrong, but seeing those 2drugs , I won't be blamed for arriving at this conclusion. . Rest in peace to the dead.
Have you imagined why men die more, have you ever noticed that there are more widows than widowers. Just check in your little village, then extend it to your community you will be surprised at what you find.
I just want to pick one of the reasons I feel contributes to this. I will appeal that this is solely my opinion, it may be wrong or right.
SATISFYING A WOMAN
Every responsible man wants to satisfy his family and wife in terms of providing for their basic needs and also in bed. But doing this at the expense of the man's life is what I want to condemn. It is a common experience this days that women openly talk about how bad their spouses are in bed, and most times the woman makes life difficult for the man by throwing abusive words at him. It is also common to see a lot of products being advertised and marketed for enhancement of males sexual performance. A lot of women are responsible for their husband's death because of their excessive demands for sexual satisfaction. And in the bid to satisfy the woman the man take drugs that endanger his health. And I ask "is sexual satisfaction the bases of marriage?" Some times the woman even ask for a bigger penis and my fellow man will be taking all sorts of drugs just to enlarge his penis. This is just mocking God who created you. At the end he dies SATISFYING A WOMAN. Why not ask the woman to reduce her vagina to size you instead.
A man's sexual performance depend on a lot of factors, such as stress,diet, medical conditions such as diabetes, drugs such as antihypertensive, relationship problems ,etc. How do you expect a man who you nag ,starve, embarrass on the streets, who you refuse to support financially, who sleeps for less than 3 hours in a day to satisfy you sexually?
Most times women threaten to go outside for the so called satisfaction and you will be struggling to take higher doses of the drugs to satisfy her. That woman you want to satisfy at the expense of your own life started having sex before the age of 12years until age of 25yrs or more when she got married. Before this time she has experimented widely with men of different energy capacity. Unfortunately she's married to a man with lower sex capacity and she's already addicted to sex from an early age. How can an average man cope?
Don't die in active service, don't die trying to satisfy a woman sexually. Just do what you can do and leave the rest to God. If you die trying to satisfy a woman definitely after your burial men will come and continue from where you stopped.
Our dear wives and girlfriends, we are begging you to help us live longer. Help us financially, encourage us to do more and definitely not nagging. Feed us well,give us peace of mind, allow us sleep at night, understand our health challenges, understand the side effects of drugs we are on, protect our weaknesses, and pray for us. Then we will live longer for you and your children. Our performances then will improve.
Do not harm yourself in any way trying to prove you are a man. 7-13 mins is OK, if you can go higher better and do not take drugs that will damage your heart. Many have died trying to satisfy women. THEY DIED IN ACTIVE SERVICE.
Like our Facebook page